Here’s a bit of good news! According to an article in today’s Washington Post, “[The] Number of long-lasting marriages in U.S. has risen, Census Bureau reports.”
We’ve been told forever that half of all marriages end in divorce. This is still sadly true for black women, half of whose first marriages end in divorce.
But three in four couples overall who married after 1990 stayed together for at least 10 years, according to the WaPo story.
And while college women might feel that their chances of getting married have declined, once they do get married, they’re three times more likely to stay married than couples without college degrees. That’s one point in favor of the “Lady College Grads” that Sarah is writing about!
Of course, staying married is not just a matter of the odds. No human being has a boundless supply of love . . . that’s why we all should occasionally pray for MORE love for our spouses, kids, neighbors, and so on.
It also helps if we know what our part is in the marriage – our own distinct role. Most marriages today end because fussing, fuming wives decide to flounce off, knowing the government will require their husbands to keep paying, and that the government itself will pay the freight for single moms, in many cases. Read Stephen Baskerville’s book Taken Into Custody: The War Against Fatherhood, Marriage, and the Family for all the shocking facts. (Dr. Baskerville is an Associate Professor of Government at Patrick Henry College, BTW, so he writes from the point of view of a serious researcher, though his book is VERY readable.)
Part of the solution has to be knowing the purpose of marriage and what each of us is supposed to do. A lot of the answers for women can be found in The Way Home, because the book is all about what the Bible says to married Christian women. Bill says it wouldn’t hurt for their husbands to read it, too!
If we all understood how important marriage is to God’s plan, we’d all do more to make sure our marriages last.